Where is God when we need Him ?

She jumped up as soon as she saw the surgeon come out of the operating room. She said: 'How is my little boy? Is he going to be all right? When can I see him?'
The surgeon said, 'I'm sorry. We did all we could, but your boy didn't make it.' Sally said, 'Why do little children get cancer? Doesn't God care any more? Where were you, God, when my son needed you?' The surgeon asked, 'Would you like some time alone with your son? One of the nurses will be out in a few minutes, before he's transported to the university.'

Sally asked the nurse to stay with her while she said good bye to son. She ran her fingers lovingly through his thick red curly hair. 'Would you like a lock of his hair?' the nurse asked. Sally nodded yes. The nurse cut a lock of the boy's hair, put it in a plastic bag and handed it to Sally.The mother said, 'It was Jimmy's idea to donate his body to the University for Study. He said it might help somebody else. 'I said no at first, but Jimmy said, 'Mom, I won't be using it after I die.. Maybe it will help some other little boy spend one more day with his Mom.' She went on, 'My Jimmy had a heart of gold. Always thinking of someone else. Always wanting to help others if he could.'

Sally walked out of Children's Mercy Hospital for the last time, after spending most of the last six months there. She put the bag with Jimmy's belongings on the seat beside her in the car. The drive home was difficult. It was even harder to enter the empty house. She carried Jimmy's belongings, and the plastic bag with the lock of his hair to her son's room. She started placing the model cars and other personal things back in his room exactly where he had always kept them She lay down across his bed and, hugging his pillow, cried herself to sleep.

It was around midnight when Sally awoke. Lying beside her on the bed was a folded letter. The letter said:

'Dear Mom,

I know you're going to miss me; but don't think that I will ever forget you, or stop loving you, just 'cause I'm not around to say 'I Love You'. I will always love you, Mom, even more with each day......... Someday we will see each other again. Until then, if you want to adopt a little boy so you won't be so lonely, that's okay with me. He can have my room and old stuff to play with. But, if you decide to get a girl instead, she probably wouldn't like the same things us boys do. You'll have to buy her dolls and stuff girls like, you know.

Don't be sad thinking about me. This really is a neat place. Grandma and Grandpa met me as soon as I got here and showed me around some, but it will take a long time to see everything. The angels are so cool. I love to watch them fly. And, you know what? Jesus doesn't look like any of his pictures. Yet, when I saw Him, I knew it was Him. Jesus himself took me to see GOD! And guess what, Mom? I got to sit on God's knee and talk to Him, like I was somebody important..

That's when I told Him that I wanted to write you a letter, to tell you good bye and everything. But I already knew that wasn't allowed. Well, you know what Mom? God handed me some paper and His own personal pen to write you this letter I think Gabriel is the name of the angel who is going to drop this letter off to you. God said for me to give you the answer to one of the questions you asked Him 'where was He when I needed him?' 'God said He was in the same place wi th me, as when His son Jesus was on the cross. He was right there, as He always is with all His children.

Oh, by the way, Mom, no one else can see what I've written except you. To everyone else this is just a blank piece of paper. Isn't that cool? I have to give God His pen back now He needs it to write some more names in the Book of Life. Tonight I get to sit at the table with Jesus for supper. I'm sure the food will be great.

Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don't hurt anymore the cancer is all gone.. I'm glad because I couldn't stand that pain anymore and God couldn't stand to see me hurt so much, either. That's when He sent The Angel of Mercy to come get me. The Angel said I was a Special Delivery! How about that?

Signed with Love from God, Jesus & Me. ---THE END---

**Honestly I think everyone will ask this question when we face trials, challenges, hurts, frustation, dissapointment, temptation : "Where is God when we need Him? "

Well, I have no answer to that but with faith I believe that God is always by our side in good times and bad times...It is just the matter of whether we see/felt God or not...

Embrace Imperfection...

"When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food.
And I remember one day, she had made breakfast after a day of hard work. On that day, my mom placed a plate of eggs and extremely burnt toast in front of my dad.
I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom. I don't remember what I told him, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite!

When I got up from the table,I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the toast.And I'll never forget what he said: 'Baby, I love burnt toast.Later, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, "Your Momma put in a day of hard work and she's real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone! You know, life is full of imperfect things... and imperfect people. I'm not the best housekeeper or cook myself." He continued “What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each other's faults - and choosing to celebrate each other's differences is the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting marriage relationship.”

We could extend this to any relationship in fact - as understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!

So guys & gals, treat those how you want them to treat you....
IF you want to be loved, you must first love others
IF you want to be cared, you must first care for others
IF you want to be respected, you must first respect others

Life is a cycle, the act of love will multiply and spread around endlessly
But somebody needs to start it first, rite? So, should I count you in ???

How to know a person's true character

Well, as wise man always says, don't judge a book by it's cover,but since we "human" tend to judge things or people by first impression, we always misjudge a person because once again the wise man says appearance is deceiving,so I guess there is always inner beauty in that someone too. Let's take a look on how to know a person's true personalities..........

Check point:
1.How does he or she relate to God - place God before others, maturity in Christ.

2.The way he or she treats others-
a) Authorities- respects, agreement, obey
b) Parents- the way a guy treat his mom is the way he will treat his wife in future.
c) Opposite sex- friendliness and flirtations
d) Companions- his or her best friend, how they influence each other.

3.The way the person disciplines his or her personal life- habit, manners an be observed by how he or she handles money (stingy or spendthrift, how does he cares for his body (clean,healthy)

20 Questions in choosing the right partner....

I got this from a christian book, give it a thought to all these question, it might help a lot, especially those who are still hesitating...All the best in answering them =)


1.Do you help each other grow closer to God? (bible study, sharing)

2.Can you two talk? (communicate well)

3.Can you two play together? (laugh, have fun, hang out)

4.Can you two work together? (in a team, helping each other)

5.Do you have mutual friends? (both parties knew each other)

6.Are you proud of each other? ( backgrounds, academic, intellectual)

7.Are you intellectually in the same level? (Degree, Master, PHD)

8.Do you both have common interest? (reading, jogging, singing)

9.Do you share the same values? or opinions? (God is my saviour)

10.Do you two make decisions together? (considering both sides)

11.Do you help each other emotionally? (when sad, lonely)

12.Do you have absolute trust in each other? (no doubt,questioning)

13.Are you more creative and energetic because of each other?

14.Can you accept and appreciate each other's family?

15.Do you have unresolved relationships in the past? How bout ur partner?

16.Is sex under control?

17.Have you spend time together?

18.Have you fought and forgiven?

19.Have you talked about each area of your future life?

20. have you both gone for counseling?



* If most of the answer is yes,congratulations,and go ahead with this relationship.
*If most of the answer is no, Sorry, you should reconsider or improve with this relationships.

Whatever it is, if something or someone doesn't belong to you, just let go...
Is something or someone does belong to you, eventually you will get it back, only time can tell.....

All the best in love hunting >>>> dating >>>>>marriage =)

Difference between Girls and Matured Women‏

(1) Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Matured women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.

(2) Girls want to control the man in their life.
Matured women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling

(3) Girls check you for not calling them.
Matured women are too busy to realize you hadn't.

(4) Girls are afraid to be alone.
Matured women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.

(5) Girls ignore the good guys.
Matured women ignore the bad guys.

(6) Girls make you come home.
Matured women make you want to come home.

(7) Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Matured women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.

(8) Girls try to monopolize all their man's time (I.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).
Matured women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends!

(9) Girls think a guy crying is weak.
Matured women offer their shoulder and a tissue.

(10) Girls want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Matured women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'.

(11) Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.
Matured women know that, that was just one man.

(12) Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'.
Matured women know that sometimes the one you love, don't always love you back and move on, without bitterness.

After comparison, I think that I am the matured women after all, sorry girls...

Are you ready ???

Dating: most of us who are still single must be wondering when is our turn to get a boyfriend/ girlfriend, while watching other couples going out on a date, holding hands, hugging each others, accompanying each others. As this scene appear, it makes the singles today even more desperate to find a partner for themselves too. Not just that, singles also have to face the pressure from parents to get married as age is catching up and there is no time to loose . Headache. Well, if that is the reason you want to date someone. Then, lets take a look at the question below, to check out whether we are ready to date someone.....

1. The Bible teaches that, in every area, we are to "trust in the Lord" and "lean not unto our own understanding." Rather, we should let God "direct our paths." (Proverbs 3:5-6) .


2. This brings me to a major question: What is your motive or objective in dating? Is it to have fun? Build your self-esteem by saying you have a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend"? Or is it to find the person that God has in store for you?


3. Marriage is a God-ordained institution. It is a good thing for men and women to marry, and we should prepare ourselves for that chapter of our lives - and make sure that what we do before marriage doesn't hurt our marriage once it comes.


4. When it comes to any serious relationship, Christians are not to be "unequally yoked with unbelievers (II Corinthians 6:14). This doesn't mean Christians should be stand-offish or elitist. This is simply common sense! The Bible teaches that, in marriage, two become "one flesh" (Genesis 2:24). If the man and woman disagree on something as fundamental as Christianity itself, becoming "one flesh" (truly ONE flesh) is all but impossible.


5. Everything we do is to be to God's glory. Is your dating/social life glorifying to God? Are you living in obedience to God (particularly in the area of purity)?

Christian Dating concept...

10 concepts to follow and remember:

1. Strengthening your self- concepts by accepting the fact that both of you have faults as well as virtues will allow you to appreciate one another more. Accepting who you are as God's creation allows you to be open and honest with your partner about your past and future dreams.Do not hide anything from your partner as it is more painful and unforgettable when your partner finds out themselves from others.

2. Understanding the differences and similarities between both of you allows the couple to work together in solving problems, overcoming weaknesses, and encouraging each other. The support from the love one is very important as it helps motivate the other partner to continue to move on and dare to fall.

3. Clarifying the expectations of yourself towards your partner, and how you want the relationship to be, gives you a chance to discard unrealistic fantasies and help to fulfill each others needs.

4. Choosing and working towards the goals that both of you have set in your relationship will bring the two of you closer together because you are investing into one another lives.

5. Communicating openly and confronting one another in a loving manner builds trust as well as a degree of intimacy in your relationship. Helps to prevent any misunderstanding and quarrel in future.

6.Spending your time apart from one another in a constructive manner encourages a healthy level of independence in each individual, giving one another some space for privacy and time out to be with their friends .

7.Seeing each other in a variety of situations over a period of time helps you to know more about your partner's personality and character. Each event like sports, picnic, visitation, charity work and so on would allow you to see the true- self of your partner in different ways.

8. Controlling the progression of the relationship allows the romantic fantasy to evaporate so that the relationship is build on reality and not just merely infatuation.

9. Limiting the time spent alone together is an exercise of patience and discipline that will be helpful in the course of long term relationship. Stay pure before marriage shows respect for one another and shows how deep you love one another that you are willing to save your most important thing for your partner.

10.Seeking counseling can help you to anticipate and overcome most major hurdles you may encounter and the past that still haunts you.